Hey thanks for your message man, nice words!
Story sounds familiar to me. The distrust within a relationship will eventually break you down. The crisis story therefore sounds very logical to me. Only when everything has calmed down does she start thinking about it.
I also had a period of relapse of +- 6 months. Getting it back on track afterwards is tricky but well worth it.
Later, while I was reading a book, I came across a passage that we all know extremely well.
But you are a great sinner, that’s true,” he added almost solemnly, and your worst sin is that you have destroyed and betrayed yourself for nothing.
I don’t really know which is better in such a case. Quite a bit of damage has been done in those years. This is exactly what happened to me a few months ago, after a relationship of about 5 years with all the gambling frenzy. But I look at it like this. If you have given up gambling, it is also more practical to accept the loss (the break) and focus on the future. That in the future you have someone who didn’t let you experience the gambling drama and all the additional mistrust, someone who starts from zero with you. Where you no longer do those frills and have learned from the previous mistakes. Because it is quite a lot that gambling does a lot to yourself and the people around you. The person belonged in your life, helped and supported you when you needed it and left when it was done, meant to be I think. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that it happens more often.