I’ve been gambling for a few years and I throw all my money away with it. Just can’t stop. Every time I gamble on the internet I lose 100/200 euros again. I’ve already lost thousands of dollars with it. I don’t even want to calculate how much. And if I win something, it’s gone for a few days. It really has to stop!

Hi klaas,

Hi Klaas,

Hi Hi

Difficult.

Hello readers.

I made a mistake again and gambled my (savings) argent. Previously stopped 2x almost 1 year and now the error again.
Fortunately, I have no fixed costs as a student, but without money it is very difficultFortunately, I will receive a wage from my side job again in 2 weeks and I have no further debts, so that will just be savings.

Now I still have to report it to my parents (and also my girlfriend who knows nothing about it until now, despite the fact that we’ve been together all these years)….
Anyone have any tips for the above?

I’d like to get rid of it. Also got me unsubscribed, both online and at the casinos.

What do you do when you feel the urge to gamble again?

With me it often starts innocently, but then I want to win the money back and I go more often and I play with larger amounts.

I fear addictions move. So when you have that sensitivity there is a tendency to look for something in its place. You stop drinking and suddenly you start buying everything.

That happens to me. I am suddenly aware of this: with a sober head I buy a cardigan for 85 euros. After 1 day I already know that that was ridiculous. Does that make me happy?

So it’s a huge comforting behavior. A kind of self-medication: you do this based on shortages (in my opinion) and then the question is: where is the actual shortage. What is the actual need?

Maybe this is of some use to you?

Because I suppose it’s the same with gambling: the possible upcoming reward is essential for your well-being!!

it just doesn’t always come!

What does bring you well-being?

We (yes, me too) need to look for a different kind of well-being experience.

And was it successful?

How have the past few months gone HMKAM/ Difficulty quitting? Have you had tough moments and what other choices have you made?

It is always difficult to stop, that voice never goes away.
And you’re absolutely right that it sucks when you lose money but that feeling of lying to yourself is indeed the worst thing there is and I know what it feels like to hate yourself.
Try to talk about it with your girlfriend or family, good luck.

hey never lucky,

Are you going to keep track of how you are doing every week?

hey timberland,

Sorry for responding so late, I’ve been back to work for a few weeks now and so luckily I worry less.
I still have the dream of becoming a poker pro, I can’t get it out of my mind.

I’m still not completely myself and I’m not really happy either, I still think a lot about gambling and I still smoke every day, I can’t break that vicious circle.

The plus is that I know from myself that I will not gamble for the time being because I don’t have much to spend.
Poker is not possible for the time being, although I would like to, I’m very honest about that.
With me it is always a few weeks of being sad after a loss and then just moving on, but that is not possible now because I am unsubscribed from everywhere for 6 months

Oh well we’ll see, unfortunately I’m not as determined as you are and I’m already counting down in my head to that date when I can play poker again, pretty stupid I know but I don’t really learn from it.

I don’t seek help, I see that as a weakness, I know it doesn’t necessarily have to be a weakness, but that’s how I interpret it and I don’t need help either because I’m a problem gambler and not a (hard) gambling addict .

Malheureusement, we gamblers can never gamble for the rest of our lives, but we can have a beautiful life.

I think it’s a nice sentence but I never see myself having abeautiful lifebecause I am not currently doing what I would like to do and because I am missing a lot in my life.
I sit in the office 9 hours a day with people I don’t even like that much, but that’s okay almost half of the Netherlands has that.

I’ll check this forum again in a while, just wanted to comment.
Sorry it’s so late, good luck buddy.


edited by NeverLucky

hey neverlucky,

It’s good that you haven’t gambled in the last few weeks, that’s always positive despite any argument. As you say yourself, you see yourself as a problem gambler and not as a gambling addict. I hope for you that this is indeed the truth, for you are the one who knows best yourself. I soon knew that I am addicted to gambling, while I am not at all in other areas. Yet it all took a very long time, probably because I have always experienced life as pleasant and it always turned out well. Until the moment came when fine wasn’t fine anymore and I was the one who had to change. It is a pity that you write that you miss a lot in life, because you should not talk yourself into a negative spiral. Is this also the reason you want to become a poker pro, because this seems like the ultimate dream life? Try turning it around and seeing what is going well in your life and/or whether you can put extra energy into this.

Under the motto: if you always do what you have done, you will always get the same result. It takes courage to change, but it will take you to the next page….

be lucky!

You have a lot of questions, If I were you I would find and talk to a confidant. try to talk to that person only about things that are not going well and that you want to get rid of. Then you will also become a bit calmer and you will start thinking and become wiser, I hope.

LH, did the situation end well and what steps have you taken?

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