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Last night I played again from 400 euros to 7400 euros and eventually lost everything again, I can never stop at the right time.

Who can help me?

Unfortunately lost a lot of money back to the way up, how?

you have these addiction(s) never wanted, but they just happened to you.

What doesn’t help is by gamble to win back the money.

Fire needs three things to burn, namely: Oxygen, Fuel, Heat.

In order to gamble, one needs three things, namely: Money, Time and Access.

Think of ways to limit this, for example:

1. Money

Think of ways to make your free disposal to limit money as much as possible. For example, hand over your finances to someone you trust and give yourself weekly money. Money is the resource that keeps you gambling. Don’t give a smoker who wants to quit a pack of cigarettes, an alcoholic don’t give you a six pack just to be sure etc. If this is not there, look at other options such as budget management or administration

2. Time

Gambling takes a lot of time. Not just the time you behind the game, but also thinking about how you will gamble next time or fantasizing about a large amount of money. Think of ways to fill in this time differently, such as writing and reading here on the forum or a other fun hobby.

3. Access.

You can have yourself blocked on any online site, or for example install a betblocker like this https://betblocker.org/ (free)

As a last tip I would like to give:

Don’t try it alone. I myself have tried this for 5 years without success. Only after I open a fair was against the people around me I could be helped. Find someone you can trust or get professional help.

Hope you keep writing here.

Hey @SstopNuHetNogKan,

First install https://betblocker.org/ This ensures that you can no longer go to gambling sites on your phone and computer. An addict will always find other options, but this makes it a lot more difficult.

Most of all, talk about it. With family, friends but especially with the people who are close to you.

I’m also a gambling addict, see

I hope we can help you, please stay active on the forum.

Alex

2 years ago I first came into contact with online roulette, like everyone else, this started innocently with max €30.  Until I had a 50-100 profit for 3 weeks in a row.  After 2 months of not playing I tried again there it went wrong I just kept depositing a few tens until I realized it was morning and I was 2000 lighter .. from that moment confessed to my surroundings and they thought it was bad for me But everyone thought it was a one-time thing, so it wasn't.

Hi @Shannon

Hi Shannon,

1 hour ago Wim123 said:

Hi Shannon,

Thank you for writing your story here.

But straight to the point. I would put the finances back in your friend’s hands. For example, I put my banking app on my friend’s device. This way she gets a notification of every expense and I can still see my balance. Your story also shows that because you handed over your finances, you could also remain gambling-free for a year.

Then take this with you as a lesson that you just can’t have total control over your own account and that someone has to keep an eye on it.

I always see my gambling addiction as a commander in my brain. He sees and hears everything and waits until the conditions are right to strike.

Nicely said @Wim123

my little commander is asleep for a bit but we have to be aware that he could wake up at any moment.

On 4/27/2020 at 6:10 PM, Shannon said:

Hello everyone,

After reading a number of other topics I decided to share my story here as well. In the hope of finding a “fellow sufferer” so that we can support each other.

2 years ago I first came into contact with online roulette, like everyone else, this started innocently with max €30. Until I had a 50-100 profit for 3 weeks in a row. After 2 months of not playing I tried again there it went wrong I just kept depositing a few tens until I realized it was morning and I was 2000 lighter .. from that moment confessed to my surroundings and they thought it was bad for me But everyone thought it was a one-time thing, so it wasn’t.

The 4 months after that I lost all my money, so I even had to take out a loan. After that, my environment thought it was enough and started managing my finances. For example, I managed not to gamble for more than a year (except for a few visits to the holland casino where I do see the value of money)

last January I gambled again this was lucky and with 7000 I was satisfied and I left it and wanted to cash out in parts because of the tax. Now it went completely wrong 2 weeks ago and I gambled all my money including the 7000 again in a week. The feeling that I can earn my money back is so strong that I keep trying. Now I confessed to my boyfriend again and he gives me 1 last chance to prove myself which I am very grateful for.

so i’m looking for help.. someone i can talk to who understands me. This is very difficult for non-addicts.

Greeting,

Shannon

Hi Shannon I’ve been a gambling addict for 8 years now it all started innocently with friends to the casino won a few tens and super happy that it could go quickly why do you still work? Now 8 years later and a lot of debts you really have to do something about it I’m already too deep in it and now try to seek help at a certain point life is all about gambling and you start neglecting and isolating yourself and even commit fraud or theft so I advise you to seek help asap greetings

Gambling requires three things, namely

Wim thanks for your response unfortunately this is of no use to me I will find a way out to gamble I am afraid that I will soon do something stupid that will get me stuck I do not want to be the person I have become I I also don’t know how I will ever get rid of this problem and let alone my debts!

No 1 way is 100% foolproof, but you have to make it as difficult as possible for yourself. You have now become this person, that does not mean that you cannot become another person. I think a detour is not a reason to leave things alone.

The best way to get rid of this is to seek outside help. Nobody stands a chance, as long as you work hard at it! Change your mindset. I’m not going to gamble today. Don’t look too far into the future.

We have numerous options in the Netherlands for your debts. Find them and work on them. Gambling will only make the problems bigger, not smaller.

5 minutes ago Wim123 said:

No 1 way is 100% foolproof, but you have to make it as difficult as possible for yourself. You have now become this person, that does not mean that you cannot become another person. I think a detour is not a reason to leave things alone.

The best way to get rid of this is to seek outside help. Nobody stands a chance, as long as you work hard at it! Change your mindset. I’m not going to gamble today. Don’t look too far into the future.

We have numerous options in the Netherlands for your debts. Find them and work on them. Gambling will only make the problems worse, not smaller.

That is certainly true where clear thinking is fortunately good for me when I can’t gamble and afterwards I always think what a loser I am. Are you also a gambling addict?

After the usual brainstorming about how I could make up for the lost money by selling things or transferring saved money to my bank account, I also went online today to see if there was an opportunity to chat with fellow gambling addicts.  That's how I came to this forum and read a number of stories.  I recognize myself very much in the stories and thought I'd post a piece as well.  Perhaps when I want to gamble I can try to write on this forum and thus realize that I don't want to gamble at all and therefore shouldn't do it.

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welcome to this forum chris, a good first step. I recently read the book: “the easy way to stop gambling” by allen carr. This writer is best known for his book on quitting smoking, but now it’s focused on quitting gambling. Book costs 2 tens in my opinion: it doesn’t help, it doesn’t harm †

Hi Lex,

What did you think of the book? Is it worth reading? Today I was on the internet again to see if there were still cainos that I had not blocked. Fortunately everything was closed and I had to do something else so that the danger has passed for a while. The urge that is now mainly at play is to make up for a loss and not so much to gamble for pleasure. The problem is always that the internet and payments with ideal always remain very accessible. Can now say that I am clean for 1 day,…..the day is not over yet but hope to be able to write that I am clean for 6 months or a year. Would love to hear what you thought of the book and if it helped you.

well worth it christian. What he especially insists is that your mindset should be adjusted in such a way that you see/feel the “not gambling” as the liberation and not the “gambling” as the liberation. It’s very easy to say, of course, but it makes sense in the end. The moment you only do it on willpower, sooner or later you will succumb and you will start gambling again (most of us at least). The moment you have really instilled in yourself that not gambling is the right and liberating thing and you really believe in that and you also feel it then you automatically act on it by simply not going to gamble. This saves you a lot of pain and effort from pushing yourself through the day to stay gambling-free that day. It is of course also possible that the book does not appeal to you, but as said: “it doesn’t help, it doesn’t harm”.

I'm all together about 4000 lost .. I want it to stop because I really need it myself .. does anyone have any tips?  I called my doctor today for treatment.

hello ton,

hello Xsanny yes I called yesterday after the GP .. but they were supposed to call me back yesterday but they didn’t .. I don’t feel heard with them .. I would like a referral for treatment .. because I don’t want to be heavily addicted become.. mvgr

2 hours ago ton1988 said:

hello Xsanny yes I called yesterday after the doctor .. but they were supposed to call me back yesterday but they didn’t .. I don’t feel heard with them .. I would like a referral for treatment .. because I don’t want to be heavily addicted become.. mvgr

You will be sent from organization to organization more often. This is kind of how the healthcare system works here. 4000 is of course a nice amount, but not so large that you immediately belong in addiction care.

My doctor didn’t call me back either. now I could get angry about that and feel unheard or pick up the phone and ask how things were going.

Tips to quit : Hand over your money to someone you trust , install www.betblocker.org, block the casinos you played at, fill your free time with other things.

In addition, there is no magic pill. You can still receive so much help and keep gambling. You are ultimately responsible for your choices/actions and the associated consequences.

So my advice would be: Consider the $4000 lost, stop gambling and move on with your life.

well the doctor called .. he says I’m not addicted but that I have to make sure that I can’t access my money, the bank card and stuff ..

In the period between 2013 and the present, I occasionally gambled a lot, an enormous amount.  I have also sunk really deep during this time and it is time for a real turnaround.  2013-2020 is already a long time.  I could tell stories about thoughts, emotions and actions from that period.  Online gambling, gambling halls, sports betting, scratch cards and all kinds of 'game shows' such as Deal Or No Deal..... Unfortunately I have to say that I can tell anecdotes about everything.  In the first 4-5 years, roulette has been by far my favorite game.  I was very much involved with roulette and it sometimes happened that I played from a deposit of € 150,- and managed to make € 2,400 to € 2,600 from it within the foreseeable future.  Interest in roulette waned at a certain point.  Maybe because I was really getting tired of losing my bets.  I did feel that I had suffered far too many losses.  I had played with fire far too many times and I was developing a sort of aversion to roulette and places where it is offered.  Since about February 2018 I play a lot of blackjack.  This has now almost completely taken the place of roulette.  The tension of this game and the relatively low house edge of the game ensured that I was completely absorbed in this game.  Until now.  I am now empty handed.

Welcome to this forum. It’s a devilish addiction…hopefully 6/22 will be your last day that you will have gambled…how much have you lost so far? And do you have debts..?

Good luck Ginneken, whoever writes stays †

Hi Ginneken,

Thank you for signing up to the site.

I can clearly see from your story that you are done with it. Good to take the first step that enough is enough.

What are your next steps to keep it up at the next salary. And in this way to achieve your financial goals.

Greetings Xsanny

On 6/24/2020 at 12:29 AM, mortingestreise said:

Welcome to this forum. It’s a devilish addiction…hopefully 6/22 will be your last day that you will have gambled…how much have you lost so far? And do you have debts..?

definitely don’t try to go after the lost money; will only make the situation worse.

greetings & good luck

This is something I’d rather not face, but I’ve made a good guess at this point.

The period 2013 – 2020 covers 7 years, so 84 months.

In all this time, there have been up to 24 months in which I have played only lightly and “mastered” at casinos. In a small number of months, a month was closed without that there was a loss, and sometimes the loss was still quite limited, for example – €300 or – €325 in one month. On average I only take € 275.00.

275.00 * 24 = € 6.600.00 loss

Then there are also the months in which I have gambled very hard (offline and online). So there are many months in which as much as € 950 to € 1250 of my monthly salary has been spent on gambling. I now assume 60 months and an average of € 1050.00.

1050.00 * 60 = € 63,000.00 loss

Then I have money that I actually received during birthdays or other special occasions. In a large number of cases I have also gambled the things I received as gifts.

I now calculate 6 * 200.00 = € 1,200.00 loss.

6,600.00 + 63,000.00 + 1,200.00 = €70,800.00.

I dare to round this up and the total amount that I have gambled in my life will have been between € 73,000 – € 76,000.

I currently also have debts, for example a student debt with the Education Executive Agency. Originally, my student debt was about € 22,285.00. (That student debt at the time was happy I have actually only used it for what the student loan was also intended for, so for tuition fees, books and study materials and for normal living expenses during my student days.

I also have a revolving credit, some other debts and I also bought some on installment from a large mail order company. All in all, my debts (measurement position 01-07-2020) are approximately € 25,717.00. Since November 1, 2019 I have really taken some steps in paying off a revolving credit and the like, but that could all go a lot better (!!)

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