Welcome Paslac, very brave of you to share this but it’s in the wrong section.
@Paslac good that you tell your story here. it is a terrible disease that changes you completely . and as soon as you are a bit good in life you pull down again . good luck and try to persevere !
On 3/25/2021 at 11:08 AM Paslac said:
The frustrating thing is they make those things so addictive that I just fall for it again
I like to point people out first about their own responsibility. Blame it on the creators of the games , the casinos for treating you unfairly , your bank leaving you overdrawn : It all starts with your own behavior. You choose to do xyz. (Consciously or unconsciously, it remains your own responsibility)
The solution is to stop and not start again. If you have stopped for a while, you will notice that you can do without it. The trick is not to start again. You’re in control as long as you don’t make the first bet (as many have learned over time (I’m no exception). However long you’ve stopped, we can’t control gambling anymore).
Gambling is not you as a person, but it is part of you. That voice that says “Ahjoh a tenner can’t hurt” or “You worked hard today you can relax for a while”
You can be much more. You’re not okay the way you are (in no way meant to talk you down). You have the potential to be much more and it would be a shame to waste this.
Try to envision what you would like in 3 to 5 years. What kind of friends do you have, what kind of relationship do you have with your family, career opportunities ect. What would you say “If I have this, that would be good for me” Try to put this on paper.
Simultaneously try to write out what it will be like in 3 to 5 years if you do not achieve your set goals, what kind of hell would you end up in?
This gives you a goal to work towards (the desired future in 3 to 5 years) and an enemy to run from (the written hell if you don’t achieve your goals)
Come on 🙂